Not too many more of these left... here's the tenth article in my series, first published in 2012. There is a reference near the end of the articles that references the upcoming presidential election. Here we are again!
These articles were targeted initially to those who work with youth, but spiritual disciplines are necessary for everyone.
GUIDANCE
Whenever I am interviewing potential volunteers for youth ministry, I
tell them a story from my early years as a way to illustrate how their
decision-making processes affect their involvement in youth ministry. It
goes like this:
In my second year of vocational youth ministry, I was
interviewing a student at a local college who had expressed interest in
volunteering. I’ll call her Kristin (not her real name.) She was a
pre-med student, very earnest and energetic. One of my first questions
in my interviews was some form of “What prompted you to contact us?” and
she launched into an enthusiastic description of how God clearly
revealed to her that serving with us was His will for her life! I didn’t
need to hear any more. I believed that anyone with such conviction
would be an outstanding addition to our team. She agreed to the
year-long commitment with no qualms whatsoever.
After I accepted Kristin as a volunteer, I gave her our schedule
of training and meetings for the year. She dove right in to
relationships with students, and brought a lot of fun and energy to our
weekly meetings with youth. This worked great for about six months; then
Kristin started missing a meeting here and there. She was still
involved, but I felt her initial urgency had waned. So I scheduled an
appointment with her to see how she was doing, assuming her studies were
proving to be more challenging than she anticipated.
After hearing about the “amazing” things she was learning in her
classes, the conversation turned to her wavering interest with us.
“Yeah, I’ve been meaning to talk to you about that,” she said,
with no real hesitation. She looked me straight in the eye and went on
to describe to me that God had revealed to her that His will for her had
changed, and that she needed to quit volunteering with us! The look on
my face said it all.
When I recovered slightly I said, “But I thought it was ‘God’s
will’ for you to serve with us?” She nodded and said simply that things
had changed. I asked her how she had discerned this. She said she had
been praying about it, and when she asked her friends for their opinion,
they all agreed with her that God had told her His will for her had
changed. I replied bluntly, “Well, my God would not tell you do to that.”
I said this mostly to get her attention. What I meant was that
God wants us to be covenant people who do not flippantly agree to
anything without intending to follow through. I went on to ask her to
not try to spiritualize her way out of this by saying she prayed about
it.
Harsh, I know! But perhaps you can sympathize. My point was (and
still is) not that people are not allowed to change their minds. But to
throw God under the bus and blame it on Him was just too much to take! I
use the story to emphasize to volunteers that this decision is a
significant one and to not make it lightly.
I pray I do not sound too cynical. I would not be writing these
monthly articles on the spiritual disciplines if I did not believe with
my entire being that God created us for intimacy with Himself; I do not
doubt that we can hear God’s leading in our lives and gain confirmation
in His calling.
In Richard Foster’s study guide written to accompany
The Celebration of Discipline, he writes these powerful words regarding this month’s spiritual discipline, that of
Guidance:
Guidance is the most radical of the Disciplines because it goes to the heart of this matter of walking with God. Guidance means the glorious life of hearing God’s voice and obeying His word.
That brings me to huge questions that I encounter every day with students, leaders – heck, myself!
- How can I know God’s will for my life?
- How will I know if I am called to do this?
- What is the “right” decision?
- Can I ever say that God “told” me something?
Over the years I have found many of us Christians to be far too
sloppy with proclamations about what God has “told” us, or how a
particular crisis was “God’s will.” Nevertheless, the appropriate
response to clumsy theology is not to avoid the issues of His calling
and will entirely. Rather, we can practice the spiritual disciplines
I’ve written about in these past several months in order to cultivate a
sense of the Spirit’s leading. Foster coaches us further in telling us
that it is through
collective practice with fellow believers in these disciplines that guidance proves to be the most relevant and present in our daily lives.
What does it mean to see for God’s guidance collectively? Isn’t that
what Kristin did in my illustration? After all, she prayed about her
decision and then consulted her friends. Foster’s book has outstanding
insights on this process of discernment, and is
emphatic about the corporate dimensions of this spiritual practice.
Foster references several wonderful passages from both the Old and
New Testaments of believers learning to be led by God’s Spirit. He
especially gives some crucial elements from Acts 13, where the early
believers had been together for an
extended period of time and used the disciplines of
prayer, worship, and fasting
to determine that Paul and Barnabas were to be sent out as
missionaries. Other examples that he uses from scripture and church
history are equally powerful.
My goal in these columns is to specifically address how these classic
spiritual disciplines can be applied in youth ministry. Looking back, I
am rather shocked at the level and amount of decisions regarding
ministry that I was given at a young age. I lacked the insight and
experience to discern what to do in so many situations, and I am
grateful that I survived most of them rather unscathed, though not
without significant impacts at times.
What I wish I had known in these early years was where to go when I
needed to make some of these big decisions. Sadly, often I just told
myself that I should already “know what to do,” and after a quick prayer
and perhaps a scan over a few verses I found through using my
concordance, I would fumble through and make a decision.
Over the years I have discovered much better ways to pursue the
guidance needed to live out a soul-filled life of faith, fulfilling my
calling to leadership and spiritual formation. Here are two things to
think about.
My default answer has become “I don’t know” rather than “yes.”
As we are told by Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount regarding our vows,
“But let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes’ or ‘No, no’; anything beyond these is of evil.”
(Matthew 5:37) As I attempted to describe in my opening illustration, I
have come to recognize the importance of commitments in many new ways
since embarking on the path of vocational youth ministry. In other
words, I must see every decision as a “vow,” and weigh my options
seriously. Rather than readily say yes to everything out of enthusiasm
and a desire to not “miss out” on every opportunity that comes my way, I
have learned to wait as long as it takes before saying yes or no.
And when I do say "yes" to something, I better have said "no" to several other things in order to fulfill my commitment.
This has been especially important as my roles have enlarged. I can
tend to be overly responsible and feel I have to make a lot of
decisions, often when I’m not ready. I also can measure the success of
my day by how many things I have checked off my never-ending to-do
lists. I have learned the hard way to
not give in to my need to
achieve, and be at peace about the decisions I make. I have learned how
to seek the wise counsel of supervisors, pastors, spiritual directors,
counselors, and experienced practitioners in youth ministry. In other
words,
learn how to ask for help quickly, and often.
Understand the power of accountable relationships.
In my church tradition (the Free Methodist Church)
we spend a great deal of time and energy learning from John Wesley. He
and his brother Charles, along with George Whitefield, gave leadership
to the remarkable revivals through England in the 18
th
century. While they were renowned for their revolutionary open-air
preaching style, many would say that true transformation came through
their serious approach to accountability through small groups. There is
not room to explore that fully here, but this is the context in which I
believe the spiritual discipline of guidance is experienced most
powerfully with others. Their small groups (known as “bands”) started
with one simple question each week:
“How is it with your soul?” From there, as trust grew among members, they explored other profound accountability questions. (Go
here for ideas on how to build small groups like these.) It is
imperative that you have this sort of support and accountability if you are to live a sustainable life of faith and service.
As we approach this presidential election, pundits are expecting the
race to be close. Amazingly, the winner may emerge (as has been the case
in previous years) with only a 51% majority. This should not be the
case with believers when it comes to the decisions and commitments of
our lives. To paraphrase Richard Foster,
Believers have dared to live on the basis of Spirit-rule; no 51% vote, no compromises, but Spirit-directed unity. It works.
May we learn to not go it alone in our service and leadership. Pray
to God for direction on how to lead out of Spirit-filled guidance.
The original article was published here.
The world cannot be discovered by a journey of miles, no matter how long, but only by a spiritual journey, a journey of one inch, very arduous and humbling and joyful, by which we arrive at the ground at our own feet, and learn to be at home. 
